Week Seventeen

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One of the great things about having a blog is that I get to keep a pregnancy diary, one that I will be able to look back at years from now. Sharing these memories with you is quite special to me and I hope you can somehow relate to my pregnancy journey.

Tomorrow, I will enter week seventeen and I can’t belive that in a few more weeks I will already be halfway through my second pregnancy. My last pregnancy felt like years and I couldn’t wait to meet our little boy! Not that I can’t wait to meet our new little boy, I think about him constantly, but these days Hector seems to make time fly by and most days I hardly even notice that I am pregnant. Also my stomach is much smaller this time around (with Hector, I looked six months pregnant at seventeen weeks!!!) and so I do actually seem to forget that I am pregnant. My fiance keeps having to remind me that I am every time he sees me move furniture around or carry heavy groceries.

I can’t wait for my stomach to grow, I love a pregnant belly, and I am so excited to feel my little baby move around, which I should be able to within the next two weeks. I have been beyond blessed so far. It’s been an easy pregnancy, just like the first one. Of course I have had the morning sickness and I have felt extremely tired, but other than that I can’t complain. In fact I will not complain about anything! I am just so thankful that I yet again get to experience this amazing journey and I can’t wait for my two boys to meet. Hopefully they will be best friends for life!

I will continue to keep you updated on my second pregnancy along the way and I must say sharing my pregnancy journey with you makes it even more special.

 

Xx Melissa

 

 

 

 

 

Hector’s Birth Story

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It all started on Wednesday, January the 27th, exactly seven days past my due date. I woke up in the morning feeling very different, no contractions yet but something was definitely on its way. My fiance decided to work from home that day and later in the afternoon we went for a long walk with our dog in the forest. As we walked out of the forest I looked up at the sky. It looked uneasy and rough and I immediately felt it was a sign. At ten PM my contractions started and the whole night I was having contractions, breathing calmly through every one of them, able to stay relaxed in bed, yet unable to sleep. By morning the contractions intensified and got regular and after a talk with the hospital we decided it would be best for us to come in and see how far I was in the process.  

”You still have two centimetres cervix left and no dilation yet. ” Not the words you want to hear after a night of no sleep and fourteen hours of contractions. Right on, home we went. We stayed positive. I had always had a feeling I would have a long first labour, little did I know how long! The whole of Thursday day, evening and night I was having regular contractions four minutes apart and lasting over a minute. I did light yoga,  accupressure, fuelled up on kidney energy whilst trying to relax and got myself through another night of no sleep. God I was tired… I kept in touch with the hospital and come Friday night we were on our way to the hospital again. I needed to sleep, I needed some relief.

We were greeted by the nicest midwife who really felt for my situation. I was now one centimetre dilated and she suggested we spend the night at the hospital, they could thereby keep an eye on me. She gave me shot of morphine in my thigh in order for me to get some sleep. I felt a bit sad as I had hopes of a completely natural birth (I have not taken antibiotics nor painkillers in years), however, I also knew there would come a time where I would have to push and I would need some sleep in order to get through the last stages of labour successfully. The morphine helped me relax but the relief was short-lived. My contractions kicked in and by midnight I was four centimetres dilated.

We soon received a room…and at around one AM I asked for an epidural. I told myself that sleep and relaxation was of great importance now and after fifty-one hours of contractions and no sleep, I was mentally and physically exhausted. I got the epidural, however, the relief was yet again short-lived. As the epidural kicked in my blood pressure went down and they had to take it off immediately. I was now six centimetres dilated and still had a long way to go. By ten AM I was ten centimetres dilated and close to having our son in my arms.. Or at least so I thought I was. It took us another long four hours to get him out but with great help from experienced doctors out he came!!!! Safe, healthy and BIG weighing in at 4,16 kilo. Hector was, thank God, unaffected by the long birth and ready to enter the world. In total my labour lasted about sixty-four hours and while I have never been so exhausted mentally and physically, I would do it again tomorrow. It was the toughest yet most rewarding experience of my life and I will be doing it all over again in six months time. However, this time I am hoping for a shorter labour, just one experienced midwife in the room (and not a team of twenty) and perhaps even the water birth I had planned for first time around. One thing I have learned is you have no control during childbirth, your body takes charge and the more you let go, relax and just breathe through it, the smoother your labour will be.

XX Melissa

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My Pregnancy Journey

Hi mammas.

Last Thursday, my fiancé and I discovered we were expecting another baby boy and we are just so excited, but we both already from the beginning had a strong feeling that it was a boy so it was no big surprise. However, our little boy is thriving and growing and it felt so good to see him again! This was our second scan as our first 12 weeks scan was done privately. Our second scan was done in the same hospital I gave birth to our firstborn and I have to admit I experienced different feelings as we parked our car outside the hospital. Obviously the day I gave birth was the best day in my life but my days in labour were tough, mentally and physically. I will give you my exact birth story in an upcoming post but for now I will concentrate on my first pregnancy.

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Even though my labour was hard work my entire first pregnancy was one amazing ride and even at nine months pregnant I had no complains. The first three months were the toughest and I had to support my body with the right nutrition and gentle stretches. According to Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), the kidneys and the liver are the two organs that together control fertility and support a pregnancy. The two meridians both run trough the female gender organ (and the male gender organ) and especially the kidneys are said to be responsible for reproduction and the health of the uterus. Therefore when the kidneys become drained or blocked due to excessive exercise, malnutrition, a stressful lifestyle and/or lack of proper sleep our fertility suffers and a pregnancy can become difficult and troubled. During my pregnancy I was inspired by the theories of TCM and decided to drop all excessive exercise and focus on daily short walks and light asanas. I furthermore ate lots of carbs, such as couscous, potatoes and oranges as well as protein such as pork, all of which provide tons of kidney energy. I also made sure I got my eight to nine hours of sleep every night. When pregnant, most women including myself, experience morning sickness and intense headaches, this according to TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) is when the liver heats up which is common during pregnancy. Lots of raw cucumber, a cup of green tea and glass of organic red wine are all perfect nutritional tools that can help cool down the liver and thereby minimize both nausea and headaches. This helped me a lot and made my first three months, which are often the worst for pregnant women, extremely easy and bearable. I later on in my pregnancy experienced no problems not even lower back nor pelvis problems (often the case during the lasts months of pregnancy, especially when carrying a big child which I sure did). This again is related to the strength of the kidneys and drained kidneys often show symptoms such as lower back pain and a weakened pelvis according to TCM.

Today, six months after I gave birth to my son, I am fifteen weeks pregnant and I am thankful to say that my second pregnancy has so far been one smooth ride even with a toddler in constant need of supervision. This time around I have and will continue to yet again focus on my kidneys with the right nutrition and acupressure to keep my kidney energy in flow and unblocked. I will furthermore support my liver by cooling it down when needed. Daily short walks and asanas as well as good sleep (as good as it gets with a six months old toddler who requires very little sleep) are all also vital to another successful pregnancy and hopefully an easier delivery this time around. I have two trimesters left and I will keep you updated on my pregnancy journey along the way.

Do weigh in on the topic of pregnancy. I would also love to hear your own pregnancy story (or stories).

xx Melissa

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Welcome.

Hi guys!

I am so excited to get started on this journey with you all!!!

The blog will primarily follow my journey as a new mother as well as draw on my experiences as a yoga teacher and health counsellor. My wish for this blog is for it to become a platform for all mothers, women with fertility problems, women who tend to miscarry, pregnant women, new mamas and experienced mamas as I truly believe the role as a mother starts the day we either plan for a child or discover we are pregnant, whether or not we experience a successful pregnancy. The blog will be honest and real because let’s be honest – motherhood, even though a blessing and so much fun, is not always the easiest and while I have always had a great respect for mothers, that reverence only increased as I myself fell pregnant and became a mother. I now understand that there is no more challenging and demanding yet more important and rewarding ‘job’ than being a mother. I will encourage you to comment and share your own stories and experiences along the way and I can’t wait to hear your personal views on the different topics.

I have furthermore with my new role as a mother developed a passion for cooking, recipes which I will be sharing along the way.

I hope you will hop on this journey with me. Xx Melissa

 

 

 

 

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